Master Giacon: “dominate yourself to dominate others!”
Born 30 years ago in a small village in the Paduan countryside, Alessandro Giacon has established himself in recent years as a prominent Master in the community BDSM Italian and beyond. In this heart-to-heart interview, Master Giacon, this is his stage name, with rare sensitivity and acumen, fascinatingly reveals his point of view on this particular world.
Good morning Master Giacon, we are all curious to know more about you.
Good morning to you. Being born in a small town in the province of Padua led me, by contrast, given the little open-mindedness of the place, to choose to take a different path from the one everyone tries to take. I have always been a rebel.
I don't like to cage myself in pre-packaged roles because what I like changes and expands all the time. That is why the best way to describe myself is as a passionate BDSM. Obviously I also have many other passions, but we are here to talk about this one. I have managed to turn it into a job, which in Italy is not very easy given the lack of culture on the subject and the strong preconceptions attached to this world.
Remember when you first became interested in the BDSM?
I became interested in this world in my pre-adolescence, watching one of the classic cinepanettone films with Boldi and De sica (smiles). A scene at the end of the film involved a comic re-enactment of a domination session; this resonated in me and awakened something. The Internet led me to answer my first questions and allowed me to arrive at my first experiences already with a very good knowledge base; later on, the people I met helped me to enrich it more and more.
What motivated you to become a Master?
I started by trying everything that life offered me. The most important experiences I had were through the Decadence (the most important underground and fetish event on the Italian scene) whose brand I have imprinted on my skin for this reason, as well as for the affection I feel for the people I met there.
I have found that what I like most is domination and the extreme variations it allows in entertainment and sex life, things that often intertwine.
Is there a particular path to follow?
Yes, the route is straight ahead. I strongly advise against following paths already marked out by others except for short stretches. It certainly gives security but leads to disidentification from what we are and what we really like. This applies to all paths, not just those related to this topic. Imitation is the death of personality and leads to not really living.
Obviously courses, help and advice from more experienced people are always very important and serve to avoid safety issues. This topic is very important since we are talking about practices that always have a risk, both physical and psychological, an aspect that is often forgotten.
Speaking of risks, what do you think of the limits in the relationship between Masters and slaves? Do they have to be there?
I would say no as long as it is consensual for both of us. Everything is lawful as long as it is part of the agreement. Obviously it is essential not to create problems for third parties but this is common sense, not BDSM.
What does the BDSM? And how important is it in your life?
As I said before, it is a passion, a subject that I always talk about with energy and happiness and that gives me this in a big way. I also made a job out of it and in this case I experienced what folk wisdom had taught me years before: “make your work your passion and you won't work a day in your life”.
I experience it in all sexual relationships. By now I can recognise mechanisms of domination and submission in any kind of relationship, even of people who are completely unaware of this (smiles).
How do you win the total trust of your submissive?
“There is no one way for everyone. Each person has his own ways and each submissive has his own unique character. Impossible to make a manual for everyone.
It is certainly essential to be centred. An unstable person who does not know what he or she wants or how to solve his or her own problems certainly cannot expect to be able to really dominate someone else. An Indian sage used to say “change yourself to change the world” in this case I would say “dominate yourself to dominate others“.
Is dominance only physical or also mental?
Domination is both physical and mental. This too, however, depends on the people involved and their tastes.
I personally am very physical and have been experiencing with great pleasure the beauty of psychological domination only recently.
How does it feel to have total control over another person?
The responsibility is great because the first thought is the health of this one. However, once you have gained the right experience, there is plenty of room for pleasure.
What does this mean in concrete terms?
You know that everything you do will be the submissive's enjoyment as well as your own. An emotion that weaves itself into one energetic vortex that benefits both physically and mentally.
Have you ever become emotionally attached to one of your slaves?
Yes, for me it is essential to emotionally bond with my slaves or slave girls. If I didn't do this I wouldn't be able to do what I do well and give and receive the right energy. I cannot think of a continuous domination relationship without affection, it would be impossible for me and I think also very frustrating.
What would you recommend to those wishing to approach the world of BDSM?
I would advise leaving aside prejudices that are very strong even within this world. To experiment as much as possible. In Italy there is not much culture on this so the few courses scattered around the peninsula are important both for safety and to broaden one's horizons.
With your group BaRock Family you also perform at Decadence and other gigs. Is a bit of exhibitionism healthy or do you think sub/dom relationships should only be experienced in private?
BaRock Family is first and foremost a group of friends who want to have fun together. Exhibitionism is second to our performances, but it is more than permissible in personal relationships, everyone will decide according to their own taste whether to do it or not.
I think it is very fun and exciting to bring intimacy into public. It's a way to make others share in the beautiful and precious thing of a bdsm and sexual relationship. I also think that relationships should be experienced wherever they make us feel good, both in public and in private
I have already made up my mind but I ask you: are you happy with the life you lead?
Yes, at the moment I couldn't ask for anything better. I am one of the few truly happy people I know, and those who know me can tell you that! I can do what I want when I want, a luxury reserved for the few, this is also thanks to the people who support me and who love me with my faults that I always try to improve and the virtues that I try to enhance (smiles).
Thank you Master Giacon for your time, would you like to add something?
Life is worth living, let's leave aside social stereotypes, fears and all the control mechanisms we create for ourselves for an illusion of security and let's create together a situation that makes us feel good.
Grief must be experienced and serves to understand life lessons but it cannot be just that, if that is the case there is some lesson we do not want to learn... let us learn to be happy, whatever path we take.
